I give a lot of thanks to Ralph Smart for helping me keep my head up. He doesn’t know me and I don’t know him personally but watching his videos and listening to him really does good for my mental health. I remember first seeing one of his videos when I was in a deep depression.
“They want us all to be the same. One faceless mass of morons who follow the same fads. I’ll speak more from a woman’s point of view because, well I am a woman, a biological one as well.
We’re expected to look a certain way. They want us to spend hours to get ready so we can alter our natural features. The worst part is that we spend money on all this expensive makeup, but when we die, will it really matter? Not only our faces are supposed to be immaculately altered but our hair is supposed to be “done” all the time. We can’t just wash our hair and put it in a bun without some man, or anyone, for that matter to make a snide comment about it being unbrushed/ unwashed when in reality it was thoroughly cleaned and completely brushed. On top of looking good from the head up, we’re expected to to have an amazing figure. Big tits, small waist and a full set of hips. If we have C cups or smaller, we’re considered to have “no boobs,” and the worst part is some of your so called female friends are the ones who perpetuate that ridiculous standard; then superficial men tag along with those beliefs. Thankfully, people are warming up to the fact that not all women can attain a hip to waist ratio of under .7 but it’s still preferable to have that tiny waist and big hips.
Now that the looks are covered, let’s not forget the other things that are expected of us. These may and can apply to men as well. Our education and career. So, what is it? We’re ideally supposed to have a degree and a career by 25-26? You know, it’s kinda hard to decide what we’re going to do for the rest of our life when all of our life we’re pretty much rewired to hold certain beliefs and it doesn’t help when we have friends and family telling us what we should do it where to work. They most likely mean well, but are we happy with it? Are we choosing an education that will really get where we truly want to be, or are we choosing it because we feel pressured? Let’s be honest, most of us don’t know a whole lot of people who have at least a bachelor’s degree and a satisfying career by that age range. Most people work a job that they don’t want to be working for the rest of their life to pay off student debt or are trying to save money for their education.
What about marriage? We all NEED to have a partner. We’re not allowed to be single and happy. We need to have a life partner to be there for all the life changing events in your life as well as the mundane day to day activities. Nevermind if your partner is toxic for you; it’s more acceptable to have a shitty partner than to be single with a sound mind. Yes, marriage can be beautiful and if it works for them, then good for them but it’s lousy to believe everyone needs to be married.
We just need to quit living by society’s standards. I’m aware we have our own preferences in what we’re attracted to or what we do and don’t find attractive but it’s very unnecessary and shallow to place those aesthetic standards on everyone else. What works for one person or people doesn’t work for all. Let’s just stop caring about what’s expected of us, mind our own business and live life the best way that works for us. ~